Relationship ≠ work

There is personal life in work.

And there is also work in personal life.

But, be clear, relationship is not work.

It's a relationship. It's not work. We cannot just set a goal, and aim to achieve it.

That's far too realistic, ignorant, shallow and cold.

Relationships, especially between two person in love, needs a lot of compromising, understanding and acceptance. They give, they take. They need time. They need space. They need the truth. They need exploration. They need supplements. They need intellectual feedbacks. They need a solid foundation. They need backup plans.

Nothing simple mentioned. Simplicity is just the gimmick for the mind.

Nothing straight-forward as well. Relationships are complicated in every ways.

Having a target means looking forward, good.

However, setting a target doesn't mean you have to score them.

Having too high of a target, sometimes succumbs you to your own expectations.

Maybe you thought you were ready, when you are not?

Or perhaps, the aim is too high beyond reach, at current?

Are you on the right track?

Worst, you both are having different targets???

Should you set aside and let patience and more understanding to grow over time?

We never know for sure, how our paths cross, how they divert and how we are lead back on together. Sometimes, no matter how much effort has been put in, things still fall apart. Because, you 'worked' too hard, alone. You need to look back at the essentials, communication. You need another team player, and you need to put trust in him/her.

In relationships, there are two workers. And rule of the thumb, is to work together. Put efforts to build up a groundwork where both parties contributed almost equally. One thing leading on to another - mostly bitter-sweet. The final product can well be envisioned as much as success comes drooling in. And what matters most, is how the entire working process takes place to pull things together.

Bear in mind, the success, is not yours alone. You did it with a partner, whom you can depend and work with for the rest of your life.

That's the one you need.

Relationships are like colours to a drawing.

When there are colours, the plain drawing becomes a painting.

When more colours set in, the painting becomes interesting.

When all colours blend in nicely, the painting becomes a work of art.

Reaching the set target, is just a bonus in the end.

Both parties share the merits.